Of Star Children & Space Phobia

I got to catch the last complete lunar eclipse in North America a few years ago. Now, I'm not normally a "total" anything kinda guy. I'll maybe get to see your relatively mundane partial eclipse of the Sun or Moon. If I'm at a baseball game, it may go into extra innings or be a one or two-hitter. You know, kinda unusual. But something as momentous as a total eclipse, (or, say, a no-hitter), forget it. Ninety-nine times out of 100, if something that exciting happens, I'll be tied up waxing the cat or something equally as useful and miss the damn thing.

Not on that night, though. That night, I remembered. The early autumn sky, cloudy and crying all day, cleared. So, I parked myself, amazingly all alone, on the 1st Street bridge. There, smack over the center of the Colorado River, I had a postcard-perfect view of Austin, Texas' beautiful night skyline and the eclipsed Moon. That's where I was at 9:18 pm CDT at the moment of total eclipsedness.

Earlier, as I walked to this prime vantage point, it occurred to me that Dr. Carl Sagan had nailed it right on the head when he called us "Star Children." He explained, in his wonderful series Cosmos, that all the matter by which we're comprised of was, at one time, inside a precursor star to our Sun. Hence, the name Star Children.

Now, something draws people to the oceans. Something, that is, other than observing a multitude of scantily-clad members of the opposite sex cavorting and frolicking on the beach. Something deeper. More primeval. We'll stand on a beach or, even better, a high bluff overlooking the endless blue, and just…stare out. Time becomes as meaningless as the rest of our surroundings as we contemplate the mysterious sea. When at last we have to leave, we do so only reluctantly, drawing in one last deep breath of the pungent briny air that first filled our ancestors' lungs and, finally, we go on our way. We evolved from ocean dwellers and now, eons later, part of us longs to go back.

Perhaps at a more elementary level, humankind feels an even more subtle but unmistakable longing for the stars. It's one step further removed, to be sure. Our atomic and sub-atomic components resided in the stars way before they figured out how to self-replicate, climb out of the water, and program a DVR. (That last one, by the way, proof that Evolution is still a Work In Progress.) But the desire is still there, even if few of us pay much attention to it and most of us still equate space exploration with Buck Rodgers.

I read an article in the newspaper once that summarized a recent scientific study in which a group of men was asked how they felt towards homosexuals. A certain percentage of these men were so vehement in their dislike for gays as to lean towards outright hatred for them. Then, the entire group was wired up and shown erotic, (or pornographic, depending on your point of view) video clips depicting explicit sex acts of both a hetero and homosexual nature.

Not surprisingly, the same men who had demonstrated the most vitriolic attitudes towards gays were, generally speaking, the most (secretly) sexually aroused by the homosexual imagery. These "manly" guys, terrified of being gay, are secretly turned on so they lash out and make fun of homosexuals. The whole thing hits a little too close to home for them.

The Universe affects us in a similar manner. We know we're from "out there." …

Overcoming Social Phobia in Children

Social phobia is a complex mental health complication that affects millions of adults worldwide. Interestingly enough, many children often experience social phobia and most develop the complication in response to living in a dysfunctional home environment or when subjected to bullying at school. If you believe that your child is more than just a shy child and may, in fact, have a social phobia, it is important to seek out medical attention early so as to avoid long term health complications.

In children, social phobia is most often associated with a prior experience in which the child was embarrassed or made fun of when speaking out loud in public. For this reason, the child may have a fear, or anxiety, that sets in when asked to speak in public. If your child is fearful of speaking in public, and is not socially active, this is certainly a health complication you can address with a pediatric mental health specialist.

Mental health complications are easily resolved in children when the complication is associated with social phobia. To resolve the complication, you will need to find assistance from a mental health professional that not only specializes in social phobia treatment, but also specializes in treatment for children. In most cases, the social phobia will first be addressed by teaching your child basic relaxation techniques at which point your child will be given opportunities to engage in safe social settings so as to encourage more active verbal and physical interaction.

Beyond these mental health services, your pediatric specialist will also want to teach your child how to respond to criticism, bullying, and events that may leave them embarrassed. Because many children are not taught coping skills at a young age, these skills will be important so as to avoid relapse into social phobia, social anxiety, and phobia of public speaking.

Children experience a variety of health complications but may experience complications associated with phobias at a very young age when exposed to bullying or backlash in the home when attempting to speak up. If your child has developed a complication associated with phobia of social involvement, be sure to seek out mental health services early and when your child’s health seems to be associated with social involvement, especially with public speaking events.

Sources: Anxiety, Phobias, and Panic, by Reneau Peurifoy, pp. 79-82.…