Overcoming Social Phobia in Children

Social phobia is a complex mental health complication that affects millions of adults worldwide. Interestingly enough, many children often experience social phobia and most develop the complication in response to living in a dysfunctional home environment or when subjected to bullying at school. If you believe that your child is more than just a shy child and may, in fact, have a social phobia, it is important to seek out medical attention early so as to avoid long term health complications.

In children, social phobia is most often associated with a prior experience in which the child was embarrassed or made fun of when speaking out loud in public. For this reason, the child may have a fear, or anxiety, that sets in when asked to speak in public. If your child is fearful of speaking in public, and is not socially active, this is certainly a health complication you can address with a pediatric mental health specialist.

Mental health complications are easily resolved in children when the complication is associated with social phobia. To resolve the complication, you will need to find assistance from a mental health professional that not only specializes in social phobia treatment, but also specializes in treatment for children. In most cases, the social phobia will first be addressed by teaching your child basic relaxation techniques at which point your child will be given opportunities to engage in safe social settings so as to encourage more active verbal and physical interaction.

Beyond these mental health services, your pediatric specialist will also want to teach your child how to respond to criticism, bullying, and events that may leave them embarrassed. Because many children are not taught coping skills at a young age, these skills will be important so as to avoid relapse into social phobia, social anxiety, and phobia of public speaking.

Children experience a variety of health complications but may experience complications associated with phobias at a very young age when exposed to bullying or backlash in the home when attempting to speak up. If your child has developed a complication associated with phobia of social involvement, be sure to seek out mental health services early and when your child’s health seems to be associated with social involvement, especially with public speaking events.

Sources: Anxiety, Phobias, and Panic, by Reneau Peurifoy, pp. 79-82.…

Funny Phobias

Stumble Upon is one of the greatest websites for those who like to surf the web with their interests taken into consideration. Each Stumbler can choose a variety of themes ranging from Humor to Philosophy to Zombies and simply click "Stumble". Then, websites carrying the specified themes pop up. Stumbling upon www.phobiaguide.com proved to be a worthy revelation.

My favorite phobia from the website above was Scolionophobia, fear of school. The next time you can't seem to get out of your warm and cozy bed, just blame it on Scolionophobia. You may want to see a doctor about it, too, because if left untreated, this condition may lead to Ergophobia, fear of work.

Venustraphobia is fear of beautiful women. If you spot a hot chick at a bar and your friends are daring you to talk to her even though you stand no chance, just about your condition. Make sure to practice pronouncing it properly beforehand, or else they'll just think you have a speech impediment.

Pteronophobia is fear of being tickled by feathers. If you happen to have this condition, make an effort not to walk around with bread crumbs covering the entire surface area of your body, attracting every respected pigeon.

If math is not your forte and five plus six equals approximately seventy-two, you may claim that you've been severely affected by Numerophobia, fear of numbers. A variation of this condition is Bibliophobia, which is fear of books. Try those two on your profs and see how quickly you get kicked out of college!

You only eat fast food? Don't feel bad! It's not your fault that you are always craving KFC! You are simply scared of vegetables! Lachanophobia the main cause of obesity. In fact, Mr. Ronald McDonald opened up his first restaurant due to this terrible condition. Apparently, it was contagious too. So far, the cure for the disease has not been discovered and frequency of Lachanophobia cases keeps growing.

Cacophobia, or fear of ugliness, is another serious condition affecting today's society; hence, a huge market for artificial beautifiers, i.e. make-up, weight loss pills, and plastic surgery. But don't feel bad for purchasing all that stuff. It's not that you are insecure about your looks; it's just that you very caring about wellbeing of others, and you don't want them to suffer from an illness after they look at you.

For a more extensive list of phobias, visit www.phobiaguide.com…

Agoraphobia : Fear of the Outdoors

Agoraphobia is more than a simple reluctance to go out. It is a potentially disabling and quality-of-life diminishing unrealistic fear of being outside or of going there. It can turn a person’s home into a prison! Here is some helpful information about the condition.

Phobias are unrealistic fears. That is to say they cause people to feel nervous/anxious to a degree that would seem by most unwarranted given the observable realities. Phobias can be quite severe and can interfere with a person’s ability to live an OK life. Agoraphobia is one of the more commonly found examples of this type of fear.

Defined in the DSM-IVR: Diagnostic and Statistics Manual of the American Psychiatric Association, Agoraphobia is “…extreme nervousness about not being able to easily or quickly escape from a difficult or uncomfortable situation … usually of going into a space where such a situation might occur.” In actual practice, its most common manifestation is in the fear of leaving home – of going out.

Some people with Agoraphobia don’t like to go out of their home because it simply feels safer inside. Some can’t tolerate being in a big open space. Literally, (from the ancient Greek) a fear of public places, Agoraphobia is a lot more common than is often realized.

It usually associated with an Anxiety Disorder of some kind and is ordinarily not, in and of itself, a Psychiatric diagnosis. Rather, it is a specific feature of an often more pervasive condition …. Like a Specific or Generalized Anxiety or Panic Disorder.

The condition is managed, in secret, by many people who live their lives in ways that their fear does not show. If they never go out, no one ever sees them anyway except for those that may come to visit. Of course, people who never go out tend not to know many people who would come over! Internet relationships frequently become the social life of the person with Agoraphobia.

Some sufferers force themselves to do the uncomfortable thing in the hopes that by doing so, the phobia will lessen. The reality is that this technique, called ‘desensitization’ or ‘exposure therapy’ actually can and does work for many people!

Often treated successfully by psychotherapists practicing from a behavioral perspective, common approaches to lessening it’s effects include the techniques mentioned above of desensitization and various exposure techniques which, in a safe way, allow the person to move, incrementally, toward the feared situation.

Evidence Based and validated treatment approaches to anxiety issues also include behaviorally oriented Group Therapy. Individual psychotherapy has actually been found to be less effective than group for most people suffering from anxiety-related symptoms.

It is not unusual for psychoactive medicine to be used in tandem with these behavioral group treatments in situations where a person may have become seriously disabled and has had their live disrupted or ‘frozen’ in place by the agoraphobic symptoms. Agoraphobia can occur with or without panic attacks.

In most instances, if a person finds themselves unable to engage with the rest of the world in a moderately satisfying way, a consultation with a mental health professional may well be in order. Being afraid to go out most or all of the time would be a valid indicator that something is wrong and does need some attention. Those unsure where or how to begin are generally best advised to start by speaking honestly with their own Doctor.

Agoraphobia, like most diagnosable psychological issues that reduce the quality of a person’s life, once established for an extended period of time, is not apt to go away without some professional help.…


What do I know?
What do I think?
Does it matter
Or does it stink?

If I'm of a certain clique
My word is like God
If I don't walk the walk
I'm considered a fraud.

We all have opinions
By the millions
But what matters most
Is my political post.

It does not matter
What my degree means
Behavior isn't relevant
It's what's in my genes

It's a well known fact
Unless I'm "high class"
To go somewhere here
One has to kiss a#%.…

The First Baby Carseataphobia

I've been told by the religious community that watching the birth of a child is like watching a goddess ride toward you on a unicorn that's on a rainbow that's on a cloud, but I can tell you from firsthand experience that it's actually fairly disgusting. Fortunately, caring for a baby is fundamentally the easiest thing you can do. Just make sure he or she doesn't conk their head on anything, feed them, don't let them roll around in their own filth, and most importantly: get the car seat right!

Car seats, when viewed in the store, are absolutely magnificent pieces of hardware. Shiny, intricate, seemingly adapted perfectly to the body of a miniature human. Once purchased they are revealed to be, in their own way, torture implements not designed to fit exceptionally well in anything less than a Peterbuilt. The straps that handily slip into the bars under your seat are not long enough, so in order to get it in your car you have to plop it onto the seat, stand on it holding a dumbbell and pray that you're able to get it to click in. And the tie into the back of the seat is done by stretching the hook over the frame of your car and pulling on the straps as if raising the mast of a clipper ship. Once that's all accomplished and the seat is not moving to the point of feeling set in concrete – that's when the baby problems occur.

Is your baby not shaped to factory design? Mine wasn't. Between the issues of cheek size and paranoia it took 30 minutes to put him into his seat the first time, granted there were two potty breaks needed over that time. For whatever reason my child enjoyed throwing his head into the seat strap and crying upon each attempt. And once he was in loosely, I played the "are the straps tight enough yet" game with myself. Tightening one millimeter of strap per attempt, backing off two millimeters upon baby being uncomfortable, that was usually diaper related it turns out.

The good news is that babies only have baby-sized problems like car seat fitting and burping, and that there's a large baby-related industry constantly designing better car seats. With practice and the realization that you're going to be inefficient a baby's first car seating can be the first of many enriching adventures you will have with your child.…

Emetophobia and Children

Emetophobia is the fear of vomit and vomiting. It is the fifth most common phobia out there, but one of the least talked about. Living with Emetophobia is hard enough, but combining Emetophobia and children is a guarantee that an emetophobe will face his or her fears.

One of the hardest things that individuals with Emetophobia face is dealing with a loved one being ill. It is especially hard for female emetophobes when they are forced to take care of their own children. Women with Emetophobia may even choose not to have children because of their fears of getting morning sickness and throwing up or the fear that their child will get sick and they will be the only one able to take care of this child.

I knew that eventually my daughter would be sick. I tried so hard not to think about it and just figured that I would somehow be able to handle my Emetophobia when it came time to take care of an ill child.

One of the worst places for an Emetophobia attack to occur is in a car. There is no escape. So when my daughter became ill, in an hour away from my house I was amazed that I did not lose it. My husband was driving, I was in the passenger seat, and my daughter was in the back seat.

She had been a little out of sorts all weekend, but I did not think she would be sick. I didn't even hear it happen, but my husband heard her throw up. I initially figured it would be no big deal and was just spit up, but I was wrong. The whole cup of applesauce I had given her was all over her shirt. She was visibly upset.

We were pretty much in the middle of nowhere so my husband pulled over on a dirt road. He kept saying he didn't know what to do. He seemed to be the one having the panic attack, not me. My Emetophobia hadn't even kicked in, or if it had mom mode trumped it. I was not in a panic.

I got out of the passengers side, opened her car door, and cleaned her up with her pink stroller blanket. I had vomit on my hands and I still wasn't panicking. I stuffed the blanket in a plastic bag, tied it up and put it on the floor in the back seat.

I got back into the passengers seat and fantasized about some Purell and Clorox wipe ups. I told my husband to get on the freeway and drive to the next exit. I was still pretty calm, no fast heartbeats, no panic or crazy thoughts that I might get sick.

We got to the first rest stop about ten minutes later. I was originally going to take her in and clean her up, but she was sleeping, and I didn't want to disturb her. I simply went in, cleaned my hands with a lot of zest, got back into the car and we drove home.

I was pretty proud of myself. I was also lucky that she threw up that one time and never again.

I had always heard emetophobes can handle their own children being sick. I am just happy that when faced with an ill child myself I was able to handle it with ease and not fall into the traditional Emetophobia panic attack.

I am also happy to report that I did not have any fears of getting sick or whatever bug my daughter had after her vomiting incident. Another side …


Sadness is an island that I visit when my life permits
Indulging in parole before your minions see that I have gone
Hurried steps on waning pavement bring me down to water’s edge….
There I take a shoddy boat and set out for a place to mourn

Even on that phantom rock where waves lash out to touch my feet
I feel your eyes awaken like an itch demanding cool remission
Beaming down obsessively, igniting flames upon my neck
Followed by a brutish voice that mocks me in my fetal state

Judgment crashes through the ceiling, crippling what I thought was sky
Once again unwelcome phrases filter in to weigh me down
Scorn has rediscovered me, a satellite that never dies
Pity from the outside growing thinner with each secret sold

Where can this well rattled soul escape your ever burning gaze…
And find a place too deep or high to lose my poltergeist behind?
You dry my tears without consent, then stand me on my feet to fall
I curse your quiet laughter when my back is turned to tilted ears

Where can these frustrated fists unfold to make two praying hands
When a small black cloud pursues me even through a great cathedral’s hall?
Ones that cupped their hands around my innocence now predisposed
Dirt that I had kicked in spite now lies beneath my bended knee

I watch your figure rise behind me as I kneel to splash my face
Your statuesque expression pours disgust around my shattered will
A ceremony follows to divide me from your kingdom kin
You play the circling buzzard while I play the tortoise on its back…

Social Phobia and Children

You would be surprised at how many children actually have social phobia and their parents have no idea. Some of the symptoms that you will want to look for if you suspect your child may have this problem are shaky hands when they are approached by someone, sweating heavily and blushing when in large groups. They will also tend to shy away from crowds and not be very talkative. You can also talk with your child and ask them how they feel when they are approached by someone.

Of course some symptoms will vary from person to person. If thy respond by saying they feel afraid or begin to have abdominal pain or even if their mouth begins to get dry they may have social phobia. The good news about phobic disorders is that most people respond very well to treatment. They will eventually need to learn how to reduce their anxiety and face the social setting that they are afraid of. The sooner that parents find out about this problem, the easier it will be to deal with. If your child's problem is not dealt with they may begin to experience poor performance in school, and other areas, all because they are afraid.

There are several things that you may be able to do to help your child. First you should instruct them to practice breathing slowly from the diaphragm, this will help to reduce the intensity of their symptoms. It can also be helpful for your child to do regular exercise and muscle relaxation. There are even classes that you can sign your child up for that will help them to relax. Also make sure that they are getting enough rest, and eating right. An in-proper diet can add to the phobia. With your help and practice your child's self-confidence will increase and they will be better prepared to enter the social situation they fear.

When it comes to your child's social phobia they are usually fueled by their own thoughts. Many experts have stated that social phobia is a fear of disapproval. They always seem to think that someone is making fun of them or thinking something negative about them. In order to really help your child you have to understand the problem that they are going through. Your child needs to understand that what others say and think does not matter. By attaching to much meaning and importance on inevitable rejections they cause themselves to experience this type of social phobia. In order for them to conquer this social phobia they will have to confront their fears.

You can not hide your child and try to protect them. They will tell you that they will never be able to do this and that it is impossible. They may need to force themselves into public situations so that they can learn to handle them. Of course there will be times when they will need a push from you in order to get started. You should not automatically think that your child will need some type of medical intervention. If you take the time to work with your child you will be able to help them overcome their social phobia.…

Where can I get help and support?

Social anxiety, as well as the other anxiety problems, can be treated.

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Your GP should be best to advice you. If your doctor seems to not understand Social Anxiety he is not best for you. In this case I would suggest you seek alternative medical advice. If he doesnt understand the dynamics of Social Anxiety how can he help you overcome it?

It is also possible your doctor mistakes your problem and tries to convince you it might be “just stress” or something similar. In this case you should try to explain in greater detail when and what triggers your “attacks” or alternatively, speak to a councillor. In most cases councillors are aware of psychological problems and have greater experience with people that suffer from anxiety disorders.

As it is still quite an unknown problem, Social Anxiety is not yet a generally accepted disorder and therefore doctors are not always aware of the problems unless they either have known a patient for quite some time or have had encounters with SA before hand. Either way you should not be afraid to tell your doctor.…


I knew it wasn't just me.

Spiders. I hate them. I have no use for them. The only good spider is a dead spider. I could go on and on. And believe me, I have. I've also heard about how the majority of spiders are good for the environment because they eat all of those pesky insects that would otherwise make our lives miserable.

I don't care. If I have to spend the rest of my life buying insecticides, so be it. And the best part is I'm not alone. If you do a search for common phobias on the Internet, spiders consistently show up on the top ten lists of most sites. Why? I don't know. But I do know that even looking at one in a book can send shivers up my spine worse than watching Kate Gosselin on "Dancing With the Stars."

What is it about spiders that terrify me so? I wish I knew. I would love to get to the root of my fear and conquer it. But I don't see it happening in this lifetime, mainly because most websites suggest confronting your fear. And there is no way on earth you are going to stick me in a room with a spider and expect both of us to come out alive. In fact, I wouldn't place bets on the walls of the room surviving either.

I suppose it is human nature to be afraid of something, lots of things. Fear is probably one of the greatest motivators humans have. Fear has forced me to take positive steps in my life that I might not otherwise. Going to college, graduate school, leaving my hometown, flying, all were scary when I first did them. But they all paid off in their own way. But when that fear takes control of you and becomes paralyzing, does that make it a phobia? I don't encounter spiders every day, especially spiders that could be potentially harmful to me. But the knowledge that a spider will probably never cause me any real harm wasn't enough to stop me from slamming my hand into the side of my parents' house and moving it two feet off its foundation when I realized that a spider was biting my wrist. I'm not sure which hurt worse, the spider bite, or smashing it so hard that I left a permanent indention in the side of the house. At any rate, the spider bit the dust, and that's really all that matters. Did I feel remorse? No. Did I want to crawl out of my skin and run it through the washing machine? You betcha.

Most of the websites I read on phobias agree that phobias are learned reactions and feelings. So where did this phobia come from? I'm sure it wasn't from watching "Kingdom of the Spiders" when I was eight. Stupid cable television. If not for that I have no doubt I would be a fully functioning, normal human being. So it's really not my fault that a furry little arachnid with eight legs can make me want to invest in a used flame thrower.

I really don't mean to make light of phobias. I know of people who are so afraid of certain objects or situations that it truly does impact their day to day lives. As for my fear of spiders, it helps to remind myself that, as I said before, I am not going to run into spiders every day. But that will start to change as warm weather approaches. I can also take steps to avoid certain areas where …