Emetophobia and Children

Emetophobia is the fear of vomit and vomiting. It is the fifth most common phobia out there, but one of the least talked about. Living with Emetophobia is hard enough, but combining Emetophobia and children is a guarantee that an emetophobe will face his or her fears.

One of the hardest things that individuals with Emetophobia face is dealing with a loved one being ill. It is especially hard for female emetophobes when they are forced to take care of their own children. Women with Emetophobia may even choose not to have children because of their fears of getting morning sickness and throwing up or the fear that their child will get sick and they will be the only one able to take care of this child.

I knew that eventually my daughter would be sick. I tried so hard not to think about it and just figured that I would somehow be able to handle my Emetophobia when it came time to take care of an ill child.

One of the worst places for an Emetophobia attack to occur is in a car. There is no escape. So when my daughter became ill, in an hour away from my house I was amazed that I did not lose it. My husband was driving, I was in the passenger seat, and my daughter was in the back seat.

She had been a little out of sorts all weekend, but I did not think she would be sick. I didn't even hear it happen, but my husband heard her throw up. I initially figured it would be no big deal and was just spit up, but I was wrong. The whole cup of applesauce I had given her was all over her shirt. She was visibly upset.

We were pretty much in the middle of nowhere so my husband pulled over on a dirt road. He kept saying he didn't know what to do. He seemed to be the one having the panic attack, not me. My Emetophobia hadn't even kicked in, or if it had mom mode trumped it. I was not in a panic.

I got out of the passengers side, opened her car door, and cleaned her up with her pink stroller blanket. I had vomit on my hands and I still wasn't panicking. I stuffed the blanket in a plastic bag, tied it up and put it on the floor in the back seat.

I got back into the passengers seat and fantasized about some Purell and Clorox wipe ups. I told my husband to get on the freeway and drive to the next exit. I was still pretty calm, no fast heartbeats, no panic or crazy thoughts that I might get sick.

We got to the first rest stop about ten minutes later. I was originally going to take her in and clean her up, but she was sleeping, and I didn't want to disturb her. I simply went in, cleaned my hands with a lot of zest, got back into the car and we drove home.

I was pretty proud of myself. I was also lucky that she threw up that one time and never again.

I had always heard emetophobes can handle their own children being sick. I am just happy that when faced with an ill child myself I was able to handle it with ease and not fall into the traditional Emetophobia panic attack.

I am also happy to report that I did not have any fears of getting sick or whatever bug my daughter had after her vomiting incident. Another side …


Sadness is an island that I visit when my life permits
Indulging in parole before your minions see that I have gone
Hurried steps on waning pavement bring me down to water’s edge….
There I take a shoddy boat and set out for a place to mourn

Even on that phantom rock where waves lash out to touch my feet
I feel your eyes awaken like an itch demanding cool remission
Beaming down obsessively, igniting flames upon my neck
Followed by a brutish voice that mocks me in my fetal state

Judgment crashes through the ceiling, crippling what I thought was sky
Once again unwelcome phrases filter in to weigh me down
Scorn has rediscovered me, a satellite that never dies
Pity from the outside growing thinner with each secret sold

Where can this well rattled soul escape your ever burning gaze…
And find a place too deep or high to lose my poltergeist behind?
You dry my tears without consent, then stand me on my feet to fall
I curse your quiet laughter when my back is turned to tilted ears

Where can these frustrated fists unfold to make two praying hands
When a small black cloud pursues me even through a great cathedral’s hall?
Ones that cupped their hands around my innocence now predisposed
Dirt that I had kicked in spite now lies beneath my bended knee

I watch your figure rise behind me as I kneel to splash my face
Your statuesque expression pours disgust around my shattered will
A ceremony follows to divide me from your kingdom kin
You play the circling buzzard while I play the tortoise on its back…

Social Phobia and Children

You would be surprised at how many children actually have social phobia and their parents have no idea. Some of the symptoms that you will want to look for if you suspect your child may have this problem are shaky hands when they are approached by someone, sweating heavily and blushing when in large groups. They will also tend to shy away from crowds and not be very talkative. You can also talk with your child and ask them how they feel when they are approached by someone.

Of course some symptoms will vary from person to person. If thy respond by saying they feel afraid or begin to have abdominal pain or even if their mouth begins to get dry they may have social phobia. The good news about phobic disorders is that most people respond very well to treatment. They will eventually need to learn how to reduce their anxiety and face the social setting that they are afraid of. The sooner that parents find out about this problem, the easier it will be to deal with. If your child's problem is not dealt with they may begin to experience poor performance in school, and other areas, all because they are afraid.

There are several things that you may be able to do to help your child. First you should instruct them to practice breathing slowly from the diaphragm, this will help to reduce the intensity of their symptoms. It can also be helpful for your child to do regular exercise and muscle relaxation. There are even classes that you can sign your child up for that will help them to relax. Also make sure that they are getting enough rest, and eating right. An in-proper diet can add to the phobia. With your help and practice your child's self-confidence will increase and they will be better prepared to enter the social situation they fear.

When it comes to your child's social phobia they are usually fueled by their own thoughts. Many experts have stated that social phobia is a fear of disapproval. They always seem to think that someone is making fun of them or thinking something negative about them. In order to really help your child you have to understand the problem that they are going through. Your child needs to understand that what others say and think does not matter. By attaching to much meaning and importance on inevitable rejections they cause themselves to experience this type of social phobia. In order for them to conquer this social phobia they will have to confront their fears.

You can not hide your child and try to protect them. They will tell you that they will never be able to do this and that it is impossible. They may need to force themselves into public situations so that they can learn to handle them. Of course there will be times when they will need a push from you in order to get started. You should not automatically think that your child will need some type of medical intervention. If you take the time to work with your child you will be able to help them overcome their social phobia.…

Where can I get help and support?

Social anxiety, as well as the other anxiety problems, can be treated.

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Your GP should be best to advice you. If your doctor seems to not understand Social Anxiety he is not best for you. In this case I would suggest you seek alternative medical advice. If he doesnt understand the dynamics of Social Anxiety how can he help you overcome it?

It is also possible your doctor mistakes your problem and tries to convince you it might be “just stress” or something similar. In this case you should try to explain in greater detail when and what triggers your “attacks” or alternatively, speak to a councillor. In most cases councillors are aware of psychological problems and have greater experience with people that suffer from anxiety disorders.

As it is still quite an unknown problem, Social Anxiety is not yet a generally accepted disorder and therefore doctors are not always aware of the problems unless they either have known a patient for quite some time or have had encounters with SA before hand. Either way you should not be afraid to tell your doctor.…


I knew it wasn't just me.

Spiders. I hate them. I have no use for them. The only good spider is a dead spider. I could go on and on. And believe me, I have. I've also heard about how the majority of spiders are good for the environment because they eat all of those pesky insects that would otherwise make our lives miserable.

I don't care. If I have to spend the rest of my life buying insecticides, so be it. And the best part is I'm not alone. If you do a search for common phobias on the Internet, spiders consistently show up on the top ten lists of most sites. Why? I don't know. But I do know that even looking at one in a book can send shivers up my spine worse than watching Kate Gosselin on "Dancing With the Stars."

What is it about spiders that terrify me so? I wish I knew. I would love to get to the root of my fear and conquer it. But I don't see it happening in this lifetime, mainly because most websites suggest confronting your fear. And there is no way on earth you are going to stick me in a room with a spider and expect both of us to come out alive. In fact, I wouldn't place bets on the walls of the room surviving either.

I suppose it is human nature to be afraid of something, lots of things. Fear is probably one of the greatest motivators humans have. Fear has forced me to take positive steps in my life that I might not otherwise. Going to college, graduate school, leaving my hometown, flying, all were scary when I first did them. But they all paid off in their own way. But when that fear takes control of you and becomes paralyzing, does that make it a phobia? I don't encounter spiders every day, especially spiders that could be potentially harmful to me. But the knowledge that a spider will probably never cause me any real harm wasn't enough to stop me from slamming my hand into the side of my parents' house and moving it two feet off its foundation when I realized that a spider was biting my wrist. I'm not sure which hurt worse, the spider bite, or smashing it so hard that I left a permanent indention in the side of the house. At any rate, the spider bit the dust, and that's really all that matters. Did I feel remorse? No. Did I want to crawl out of my skin and run it through the washing machine? You betcha.

Most of the websites I read on phobias agree that phobias are learned reactions and feelings. So where did this phobia come from? I'm sure it wasn't from watching "Kingdom of the Spiders" when I was eight. Stupid cable television. If not for that I have no doubt I would be a fully functioning, normal human being. So it's really not my fault that a furry little arachnid with eight legs can make me want to invest in a used flame thrower.

I really don't mean to make light of phobias. I know of people who are so afraid of certain objects or situations that it truly does impact their day to day lives. As for my fear of spiders, it helps to remind myself that, as I said before, I am not going to run into spiders every day. But that will start to change as warm weather approaches. I can also take steps to avoid certain areas where …

Phobias from A to Z

Most of us have heard of Agoraphobia (fear of public places), Arachnophobia (fear of spiders), and Claustrophobia (fear of closed in spaces). However, many of us have not heard of some of the more uncommon and sometimes even humorous fears, however irrational they may seem to be.

We all have the occasional itch, sometimes caused by an annoying insect, or sometimes occurring for no reason at all. Given a little time that itch will always go away so most people don't view itching as a big deal. People with Acarophobia do view itches as a big deal. Acarophobia is considered a rare fear, affecting less than 200,000 members of the United States population.

All of us do it everybody without thought or concern for it. All people need to walk in their everyday lives. People with Basophobia are scared of walking. Since all of us need to walk to function, Basophobia can be an extremely debilitating fear. Luckily Basophobia is considered an extremely rare fear.

We all have to have it to survive. Some of us have a lot of it, and some of us have very little of it, but nevertheless we all need money to put a roof over our head and food on the table. To the average person, money does not need to be feared, so to us it seems irrational, but people with Chrematophobia to fear money. It can be fairly debilitating, however most sufferers find ways to cope with their fear. Chrematophobia is extremely rare, so it is unlikely that you will meet someone with this fear.

Most Americans live in a house or an apartment building. Usually, in most homes, there is nothing to be afraid of, except for the monsters that your child insists are in their room at night. People who suffer from Domatophobia are afraid of houses or being inside a house. Almost anyplace you go, there will be houses, so this is a fear that is hard to avoid. Like most of these unheard of phobias, this one is also extremely rare.

Some of us did well on those SAT exams, and some us did horrible on them, but regardless, we all needed to have some amount of knowledge to take them. People with Epistemophobia are afraid of knowledge. We all possess knowledge so Epistemophobia is an extremely debilitating condition.

We all take advantage of the cold or cold objects in our everyday lives. Many of our favorite foods need to be refrigerated or put in the freezer, we use ice cubes to cool a warm drink, and we use cold items to dull our aches and pains. Like it or hate it, the cold is a part of our everyday lives. Frigophobia is the fear of cold or cold objects. Luckily for people who suffer from Frigophobia, the cold or cold objects can often be avoided.

Most happy people do it often. I'm of course talking about laughing. We laugh at the jokes of others, laugh at ourselves or other people, or just laugh for no apparent reason. Geliophobia is the fear of laughter. For the most part, we can try to avoid laughing or being near laughter at the expense of potentially being miserable.

One-third of our lives are spent sleeping. After a long hard day most of us look forward to a good nights rest. For people who suffer from Hypnophobia, sleep can be a dreaded event. Unfortunately, it is impossible to avoid sleep so sufferers may not get much rest from this phobia.

All of us have ideas ranging from extremely smart to extremely dumb. …

Germaphobia and Superbugs

Reports from around the world indicate an increase of drug resistant bacteria. This increase has made the World Health Organization comment very strongly on how our fear of germs is creating a world where we really need to be afraid once again.

Grandpa: When I was growing up, my mother let us “get dirty.” We played in the dirt, made mud pies and otherwise did what kids do when there is a mess to be made. My grandfather would nod and say, “You have to eat a peck of dirt before you die.” It seemed odd then, but not now. I believe this practice helped us build healthy immune systems.

The Antibacterial Craze: Everywhere you look on the cleaning aisle and on the soap aisle the word “antibacterial” is prominent. To a degree, antibacterial is good. You wouldn’t want your surgeon to forget to clean his or her hands before surgery. However, if you’re constantly killing all of the bugs, they are going to fight back…mutate. The bugs want to survive just as much as we do.

About Antibiotics: It is tempting to demand antibiotics from our doctors every time we get sick. We’re so used to them working on infections it seems they should be good for everything. Once upon a time, the doctor would have complied. Now we can see the error of our ways. Like all bacteria, those that cause infections are mutating. Under some conditions doctors are even refraining from prescribing antibiotics in an infection in order to prevent the problem from getting worse.

Following Instructions: This is another area in which we humans are helping create superbugs. Some of us stop taking antibiotics before the prescription has been finished. After all, if we feel better we’re well, right? Wrong. The immune system may be fighting back, but the bacteria are still present. Finish the course so you can know you are rid of the bug.

What should we do now? I don’t recommend adults go out and make mud pies, but there are things we can do. Unless certain conditions exist, avoid using antibacterial products. By all means use the cart wipes. If you’ve been in contact with something that could make you ill, 60% alcohol hand sanitizer gel might be wise. Antibacterial dish soap is wonderful if someone in the family is ill. Other than that, use regular soap and water.

If you see signs of an infection, talk to your doctor. When you see the doctor, make sure the staff knows you are ill. Depending on what is happening you may need to wait away from other patients. If the doctor prescribes medication, take it as prescribed. If you don’t get over the infection, go back to the doctor.

If your doctor doesn’t prescribe antibiotics on the first visit, ask what to look for in case the situation gets worse. Viruses can cause infections and an infection could get worse. Follow the instructions given…including rest, plenty of fluids and staying home.

While scientists are working on antibiotics to rid us of the superbugs we have, we need to avoid making more superbugs. With your help, that’s possible.…


The NBA banished Tim Hardaway from the All-Star events this weekend for making anti-gay remarks at the revelation of former NBA star John Amaechi’s homosexuality.

Tim Hardaway said he hates gay people. He would distance himself from them. And he said that homosexuality wasn’t right.

John Amaechi played for Cleveland, Orlando and Utah in his short 5 year NBA career. The fact that he is gay shouldn’t matter to anyone. But, it does to John. He wanted to come out and tell the world. He wanted to finally acknowledge who he was and let the world know about it.

So many homosexuals go through that battle for years. They battle with their own confusions first of all. Then when they finally figure out what it is that they’ve been confused about for all those years, they battle with gaining the courage to let others know. Or they battle with the right timing to tell their parents, tell their friends…etc.

Ellen is infamous for being a comedian. There is no getting around that. But, she can also contribute some of that celebrity status to the battle she made public back in 1997. Since the not-all-that-shocking episode on her show “Ellen,” she has helped others come to grips with their own homosexuality. In her recent HBO stand up comedy hour, Here And Now, several of her audience members stood up to let her know how much of a heroine she has been to them. Remember that show? It was the one when Ellen said to the female audience member, “Yes sir, you over there!”

Anyway, my point is that homosexuals battle for years to come to grips with these terms about themselves. They go through a great deal of self-reflection and denial. Then, they feel forced to years of silence and even more denial. Denial of a different kind. The kind of denial when you finally acknowledge the truth about yourself, but you just aren’t ready to let anyone know.

Homosexuals fight through all these emotions for years until they finally decide to unload it onto their parents, who have no idea. They finally decide to unload it onto their friends, who have no idea. And when they decide to drop this bomb, they forget one simple fact.

~ They expect to be accepted by their family and their friends in that exact moment when it took them years to accept themselves. They took years to come to terms with something they expect others to accept instantly. ~

While the media is eating it up and America learns to grow yet again, Tim Hardaway is really taking the beating. He is the scapegoat to all this emotion the entire nation feels just like Michael Richards was when he blurted out racial slurs, just like the Dixie Chicks years ago when they openly opposed the war.

And it’s just like the news reporter on Tucker Carlson’s show who said about Tim Hardaway, “To say things like that over the radio…openly…where does he think he is?”

Uh, America?

I know Dan Le Batard tried to inform Tim Hardaway that he was being “flatly homophobic” and basically a bigot. And Tim Hardaway probably should have monitored more closely what he was saying. But, the fact that John Amaechi was an NBA player may have hit close to home for Tim Hardaway. He knew homosexuals existed. He has probably met a few and treated them with respect until he was able to distance himself. But, the NBA is his home. And John Amaechi lived in that same home.

Now, the scapegoat syndrome is going to kick …